Once upon a time you fell in love with your bestfriend....

I bet you're thinking, "did we live happily ever after?" Well did you?
Falling in love with your best friend always seems like the best thing to do, well because there has been friendship initially. There's always that one person in your, yes of a different gender, you are so close to him/her and you hang out together. He/she listens to you complain about crappy dates and you cry on his/her shoulder, you spend hours chatting and you always keep in touch no matter what, he/she understands you and isn't a jerk or doesn't nag about everything, he/she listens to you and understands you so you think that you are compatible.

Well for some people you can say they lived happily ever after but i bet it wasn't easy for them despite how well they have known one themselves and how comfortable they are. There are so many true stories of best friends' love affair turn sour, remember Rihanna and Chris Brown?
Why do you think that your best friend changed after the relationship advanced. But has he/she? Or are we blinded by our own insecurities and expectations? Man is afraid of change, which on the contrary is essential for growth. Wouldn't you agree with me that its often difficult for girls to embrace their new roles as lovers and are always looking for their best friend, and when they don't find him he has or changed or is a jerk. Guys forget their former roles as friends - of course they would -and only enjoy being boyfriends and when she wants a friend it means she nags a lot.
This kind of relationship is actually tougher than is often perceived. In order to make it work a compromise is necessary. Old and new roles (best friends and lovers) have to merge and this is a task ahead of those best friends out there.

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